Party Rules & Etiquette

Threshold has put together this guide for all party attendees. Any
questions or concerns can be brought to your Dungeon Monitors (DM’s) or Board
members.  All attendees at any Threshold
event must be 18 or older.  Common sense,
respect, and courtesy towards others are always the order of the day.  DMs, Board Members, and party hosts are always
here if you need them.

Threshold Rules


All activities at a Threshold function must be consensual between
all parties involved.  Remember that no
means NO and once is enough!  Consent can
be withdrawn at any time during a scene.  The club safeword is “RED.”  If a DM hears that safeword, they will interrupt
the scene to make sure everything and anyone is okay.


Keep confidential the names, telephone numbers, addresses, occupations
and activities of your fellow members.  The
identities of our membership are held in the strictest confidence.   “Outing” a member – in any way – is forbidden.
 Get permission before addressing another
member in public; remember that not everyone is “out”.   This also
applies to sharing personal information about one member with another member without
permission (i.e. sharing someone’s phone # or email address, etc.).  Also, you may not discuss club business or
name members of the club on any online or public venue.  When non-members inquire about Threshold, please
refer them a Board member or to our website.

Cell Phones, Cameras or Recording

No recording devices of any kind are permitted to be used at Threshold events, without prior approval. With the advent of camera phones and the miniaturization of cameras, cell phones may not be used and must be completely covered and out of sight at all times during Threshold events; this includes texting and the use of Bluetooth headsets. Please keep phones on vibrate or turn them off when inside the Clubhouse to avoid disturbing scenes. If you need to make or receive calls or texts, please step outside past the Main Room’s door before taking out your phone.

No Drugs or Intoxication

Threshold prohibits the use of drugs or alcohol at any of its
functions (this includes medical marijuana).  Since we believe that a clear head is needed
for safe SM play, intoxication is not tolerated.  If you appear to be inebriated, you will be
approached by a DM for your own safety and the safety of others.  Members who appear inebriated may be asked to

Party Etiquette

Our members express themselves and their SM in a variety of sexual
and non-sexual ways.  Threshold welcomes
all such expressions that are legal, safe, sane, and consensual.  Watching and being watched is part of the
experience of being in a public dungeon.  Party goers are invited to watch scenes from a
respectful distance, so long as they do not interrupt the scene.  Please keep chat to a whisper when people are
playing around you.  Loud talking
kills moods!  

Members and guests acknowledge they may be exposed to nudity
and/or sexuality when they enter our facility. 
Please understand that this is an SM organization – at parties you may
be exposed to clothing, language and activities that may trigger a strong
emotional response.  Proceed with caution
if you are likely to be triggered.

Cleanliness is important.  Please
make sure that you clean all dungeon equipment that you use, and any surface
you may have come in contact with – including your body fluids.  We’ve provided spray bottles of Madacide and
paper towels for your convenience. Spray down surfaces thoroughly with Madacide,
and then let it sit for a full two minutes.  You will be tempted to wipe the surface early
– don’t do it!  Let it sit for the full
two minutes, and then wipe it dry.  The
space is now ready for someone else to play.

Sex Guidelines

  • At Community Parties, mouth to genital and no genital to genital contact is prohibitated; touching, and the use of insertable toys is permitted. 
  • At Members Events and some Co-Sponsored Events, genital and mouth to genital contact is permitted. Due to LA’s Mask Mandate, mouth to genital contact is not allowed at this time. If you are planning any kind of sexual play or penetration using toys, please check with a DM in advance to determine what the rules are for that specific party.

No Exchange of Money for Professional
Services of Any Kind

This includes professional dominants, professional submissive,
chiropractors, masseurs, accountants, and brick-layers.  On occasion, Threshold may have vendors or
boot-blacks on site, and they may receive payment or tips for their work.


Threshold members may bring a maximum of two non-member guests to
a Members only party.  Please make sure
that your guests are aware of the nature of the event, and that they bring
proof-of-age ID (e.g., driver’s license). 
You will need to have your Threshold membership card to guest them in,
and your guests must sign liability release forms at the door.  Please remember that Threshold members are
entirely responsible and accountable for the behavior of their guests, so please
make certain that your guests know the party rules before attending.


Smoking is not permitted anywhere in our clubhouse.  If you wish to smoke you must go out into the
alley.  Please put on street clothes if
you are going to go out to smoke.

Glass containers

Glass containers of any type are prohibited, with the exception of
candles and other approved glass play equipment, such as violet wands.  No one needs broken glass in a dark dungeon!

Food and Drinks

Food is only allowed in the kitchen, patio or lobby.  Drinks are allowed in the play areas as long
as they are in unbreakable containers and have lids.  Please note:  Exposed breasts, buttocks and genitals are
prohibited in the kitchen.  If you’re
naked, ask a friend to get drinks for you!

Play Guidelines

  • Fire play of any sort is not permitted
    at this time. (exception: see wax play)
  • Wax play is permitted by permission of
    the DM.  Please bring plastic sheets,
    covers, tarps etc. so that none of your wax gets on dungeon furniture or on the
    floor.  Those engaging in wax play are
    responsible for careful clean-up of their bottom and of the area they were
    playing in, and properly dispose of any wax remnants.
  • Play scenes must consist of at least
    two people – no solo play is allowed.
  • Solo masturbation is not permitted,
    except as part of a scene. (clean up in such cases is always required)
  • Erotic asphyxiation or breath play is
    strictly prohibited.  This includes
    chocking, tight collars, bondage around the neck, and over mouth and nose,
    etc.  Gags are permitted with DM
  • If you are doing any kind of piercing
    or cutting please clear your scene with a DM first.  Keep your play scene contained in order to
    avoid the possibility of cross-contamination; cover all surfaces with sheeting;
    and bring your own Sharps container for disposal of needles/blades.  Careful cleaning of the surrounding area
    after your scene is required.
  • Do not leave anyone in bondage
  • Pee play (golden showers) is permitted
    at Members Only parties and only in the theme rooms – you MUST bring a kiddy
    pool to contain the fluid, and also please remember the no mouth to genital or
    genital to genital rules.  Scat and enema
    play are not permitted.
  • Please remember to whisper in areas
    where play is happening, and in the hallway. 
    Please use the lobby, patio and kitchen areas to socialize.

Time Limits

Remember that this is a “we” club, not a “me” club.  At busy parties there may be others waiting
to use the equipment you are using – please be sensitive of that.  On busy nights, please limit your play time
on a particular piece of equipment to about an hour or an hour and a half, so
everyone gets to play.  The DM will
monitor play stations during busy parties.

Theme Rooms

Theme rooms have sign-up sheets. 
If you wish to use a theme room, ask the DM to sign you in
properly.  Theme rooms are for intimate
or semi-private kinds of play.  You may
observe this play by standing outside the door in a silent unobtrusive
manner.  Do not enter or lean into a
room.  Please limit your observation time
so that it does not intrude into the scene by staring intently or making your
presence intrusive.  Do not block the
hallway.  Some rooms are split to allow
for two scenes simultaneously. Give those playing the physical and mental room
to enact their scene or move on to another location.

Emergency Procedures

In the rare case of an emergency (loss of electricity, earthquake,
fire) emergency procedures will be implemented. 
Please follow the instructions of the DM.  Stay quiet, calm and LISTEN for
directions.  Tops should always stay with
their bottoms and are responsible for their safety, especially in an emergency.
Failure to respond to the DMs in an emergency situation will be taken very